This is what occurred to me today --

My fantasies as Monica involve sex, but as Monica, I don't want to be the one receiving pleasure. I'm not concerned with having an orgasm in that role. I only want to please the other figures involved in the fantasy.

Monica is submissive and, for the most part, passive in these fantasies. I want to be used by others for their own gratification. But in a weird way, this is empowering for me. Monica is valued and desired for being exactly who she is. The sexual attention of others is a tribute in her eyes. Especially from men.

In the fantasy world, Monica is not bullied and despised by men for being a girly-boy, as she would be in the real world. Instead, she is wanted and loved. She has parents and admirers who don't just accept her, but desire her as she is, for being the girly-boy she wants to be.