Guilt

[sissybabyjojo]

Just writing this to get some advice/support etc.

I have times when I feel really guilty about feminine side. Like guilty to the point where I feel really depressed and just want to hibernate with the covers around and cry and disapear somewhere. It's a really horrible feeling and I really don't know what to do about it.

I my ideal world I suppose i'd like to be femme most if not all the time and my world how it is and how I want it to be conflicts massively. Its like I want to be one thing but the guilt associated with it forces me to be another which i'm not overly comfortable with anyway.

Any thoughts?

x x

[wittle_bwittany]

oh sweetie, dont worry. we've all been there at some point.

i remember one time not long after i'd first discovered my feminine side i felt so guilty i climbed up on the roof and was gonna jump off head first into solid rock, but i chickened out.

anyway, the point is, dont let the guilt control you. you just have to keep telling yourself that theres nothing wrong with what your doing. as long as your not hurting anyone, and it isnt taking over your entire life, theres nothing to be guilty about.

the guilt comes from society. people drill these old fashion gender roles into our brains from before we're even born. these things get so ingrained in our heads that it tears us apart from the inside out when we try to be different.

dont let your societal brain washing keep you away from what makes you happy. just be yourself.

[sissybabyjojo]

Thanks bwittany. I know you're right I just find it so hard to see through all the old fashioned bull sometimes. Guess it's a case of taking it on and fighting it until i come out on top.

[wittle_bwittany]

it definitely is. you just gotta keep fighting till you break all the bonds society puts on you.

[sissitammi]

Honey I know just ow you feel and I think every gurl has been through this as some point (if not they're very lucky). Do what makes you feel good just so long as it doesn't hurt anybody else.

Last year I purged all my girlie things and regretted it sooo much the next day, try and resist this if you can.

Hugs and kisses,

Tammi X

[joanne_s]

I feel for ya, honey.
But as the others have said its societies problem not yours because you are just being you and there's nothing wrong or illegal in that.
Even if you can't go full time never mind having 'the op', do create so girl time for yourself.
Hugs,

[LittleDave]

I think we have all had that feeling. Just be who you are. Try and find someone in your life that understands you and loves you the way you are. It alot harder to feel guilty about something when you have someone telling you its ok